Dr Rosie King, MB BS FAChSHM

Sex Therapist and Medical Practitioner

Pornography and/or cyber sex addiction

Since the advent of the Internet an epidemic of addiction to cyber sex, Internet pornography and masturbation has emerged. Men present with a range of problems from partner unhappiness with porn use to inability to function sexually with a partner.

Sexual dysfunctions including erectile dysfunction, inability to reach orgasm with a partner, loss of desire for partner sex and even inability to masturbate are common and result from the fact that excessive use of Internet pornography changes the structure and function of the brain.

Dr Rosie King helps people who are concerned that the pornography and/or cyber sex addiction is impacting their lives. The aim of therapy is to achieve complete abstinence from Internet porn and a break in masturbation to allow the brain to "reboot" and sexual function to recover.

Cybersex

Cybersex includes a wide array of sexual behaviours such as:

  • viewing erotic or pornographic imagery including live video feeds of sexual activity from a webcam +/- masturbation
  • "sexting” - sharing explicit details of one’s sex life, including pictures, videos or descriptions of oneself or one’s partner
  • interacting with anonymous partners through online forums, social media, chat rooms, blogs and live video chat that may include “chaturbation” (masturbating while chatting online) and real life “hook-ups”
  • interacting with sex workers online

There is a direct correlation between amount of porn viewed and:

  • lower satisfaction with relationships and partner sex
  • reduced satisfaction with intimate partner e.g. physical appearance, affection and sexual performance
  • feeling less in love with and emotionally attached to partner
  • greater acceptance of adultery
  • increased likelihood of visiting prostitutes
  • increased sexual callousness towards women
  • lack of affection or foreplay during sexual encounters
  • disinhibition in the expression of aggression against women
  • trivialisation of sexual assault on women
  • perception of women as sex objects and instruments for pleasure
  • greater tolerance of more novel and bizarre sexual material
  • belief that acts witnessed in porn are normative and desired by women
  • exaggerated perception of the level of sexual activity in the general population
  • overestimation of the frequency of certain sexual acts like anal sex, group sex, sadomasochism and bestiality
  • coercive demands for sexual acts that may not appeal to partner (e.g. ejaculating on her face, “deep throating” fellatio, anal and group sex)
  • unrealistic expectations about sex (an attribute of most media regarding sex)

Internet porn can also effect a marriage. Research indicates Internet pornography consumption is associated with the following trends, among others:

  • Increased marital distress, and risk of separation and divorce
  • Decreased marital intimacy and sexual satisfaction
  • Devaluation of monogamy, marriage and child rearing
  • An increasingly weak commitment to one’s partner
  • Increased risk of adultery - pornography use increases the marital infidelity rate by more than 300%

If you or your partner need to see a professional sexual therapist to help work through this problem, click to view the Appointments and Enquiries page to organise an appointment.

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